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Was Charles Devastated by Diana's Death? Former Press Secretary Breaks His Silence on Spencer's Claims

EXCLUSIVE: Ex-Palace press secretary calls Earl Spencer's claim a bid for 'cheap publicity'.

(L) King Charles III attends the dedication ceremony for a new memorial to the Armed Forces LGBT+ community, (R) Charles Spencer, 9th Earl Spencer during The Invictus Games Foundation 10th Anniversary Service (Cover Image Source: Getty Images | (L) Max Mu
(L) King Charles III attends the dedication ceremony for a new memorial to the Armed Forces LGBT+ community, (R) Charles Spencer, 9th Earl Spencer during The Invictus Games Foundation 10th Anniversary Service (Cover Image Source: Getty Images | (L) Max Mu

EARL Charles Spencer’s upcoming memoir, Swan Song: Diana, My Sister, has caused an uproar after an extract from the book was recently released.

The excerpt makes claims about King Charles and his reaction to Princess Diana’s death, including an alleged hurtful remark. The claims even prompted Buckingham Palace to release a statement. Now, one former royal aide has also come out in defence of the monarch.

Charles Spencer with his upcoming memoir, 'Swan Song: Diana, My Sister.' Image Source: (L-R) Instagram | @charles.earl.spencer
Charles Spencer with his upcoming memoir, 'Swan Song: Diana, My Sister.' (Image Source: (L-R) Instagram | @charles.earl.spencer)

During an exclusive conversation with Royal Observer’s Associate Editor Joshua Rom, Dickie Arbiter was asked about Spencer’s account of Charles and Diana’s relationship in the years before her death.

Rom asked the former Palace staff, “Princess Diana and Prince Charles were on better footing before she died, and you know it was very much widely believed that Prince Charles was absolutely devastated after she died.” He continued, “Listen, you were in those rooms, you were the press spokesperson for the Palace at the time… I’m guessing you would say he was devastated, wasn’t he?”

Arbiter, author of On Duty with the Queen, spent 12 years working at Buckingham Palace and had a front-row seat to some of the Royal Family’s most difficult years. He joined the Palace Press Office in 1988 and worked as a press secretary for Queen Elizabeth, as well as the then-Prince Charles and Diana.

The Prince of Wales with Prince William and Prince Harry outside Westminster Abbey at the funeral of Diana, The Princess of Wales on September 6, 1997. (Image Source: Getty Images | Anwar Hussein/WireImage)
The Prince of Wales with Prince William and Prince Harry outside Westminster Abbey at the funeral of Diana, The Princess of Wales on September 6, 1997. (Image Source: Getty Images | Anwar Hussein/WireImage)

Speaking about Charles’ reaction, Arbiter said, “He was devastated. He was shocked. And this became very apparent after they’d attended the service at Crathie Church on the Sunday, before he flew off to Paris. When he was looking at the floor of tributes, holding Harry’s hand, he was absolutely devastated. His body language said everything.” 

“His face was so drawn, and you cannot put on an act like that. So, to allege that Charles said what he said… is really a means of dragging up publicity, cheap publicity, to sell a book” he added.

Arbiter also recalled seeing Charles at Kensington Gardens two days before the funeral, where he said the then-Prince looked “drawn,” “haggard” and “very sad.” He added that Charles walking behind Diana’s coffin alongside William and Harry “spoke volumes.” 

Image Source: Getty Images| Princess Diana Archive/Hulton Archive
Prince Philip, Prince William, Earl Spencer, King Charles, and Prince Harry during Princess Diana's funeral (Image Source: Getty Images| Princess Diana Archive/Hulton Archive)

In the excerpt released by the Daily Mail, Spencer claimed that Charles told him “we’ll forget her soon enough” when he called after Diana’s death. However, the Palace quickly replied to the claims, saying that the “pain of fraternal grief can cloud reason, affect judgment and color memory.”

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