Prince Harry Is Caught in a Tug of War Between His Royal Past and New Life in the US
Prince Harry's new life in California may appear ideal from the outside, with sunny skies, palm trees, private family time, and freedom from the weight of royal duty. Yet despite finally gaining the privacy he once craved, experts suggest the Duke of Sussex often reflects on the royal life he left behind. Insiders say Harry misses the structure, military honors, and sense of purpose that once kept him occupied in the UK, and struggles at times with the absence of a clearly defined role in his new chapter.
In an exclusive for Us Weekly, royal experts and sources pulled back the curtains on Harry's alleged quandary between his busy royal past and private new life. Speaking about the Duke's absence from the royal family's Christmas celebrations at Sandringham, expert Christopher Anderson said, "Does it pain Harry to be pointedly excluded from times when the royal family gets together, like Christmas at Sandringham? Of course it does." He also revealed Harry's one regret after pursuing a life in California. He added, "On one level, Harry is content in California," noting that on another, he must regret that "neither he nor his children are sharing in their royal heritage."
While the Duke of Sussex may occasionally miss his royal heritage, there's plenty to love about his Californian lifestyle. A source spilled, "Even though he [Harry] was raised [as a royal], he was never comfortable in that environment. He feels more like himself here," highlighting how the constraints of the monarchy were tough on the Prince. "He had this crazy schedule and would come back through the Palace gates and couldn't go out or have a personal life." Still, expert Marlene Koenig begged to differ, noting that Harry's life was far more structured in the UK, with royal responsibilities keeping him busy, something he lacks in the US.
To argue her case, Knoenig stressed that the Duke's past royal duties gave him a sense of purpose. She continued, "He's all about structure, honor, and duty — things that are missing from his life in Montecito...He had responsibilities and official events to attend." Noting how Meghan Markle was the main breadwinner in their family, she added that Harry was yet to find a permanent footing in the US, as he was more focused on being a hands-on dad to his children, Prince Archie and Princess Lilibet.
Ultimately, Anderson concluded that Harry has always kept the door open to a possible reconciliation with his family, saying, "Meghan's focused on their life in Montecito, but he's [Harry] holding out hope that he can eventually divide his time between California and the UK." That hope could become more realistic if the Duke's taxpayer-funded security in the UK is reinstated, though a final decision is yet to come. In his Guardian interview, he also expressed his desire to bring his children to his home country so they can spend time with their grandfather, King Charles.